This explains why several ladies in northern Wisconsin sent inquiries despite my stated intent to remain within metro Chicago for dating. They love compliments just like you do and this is the type of flirting that allows you to choose the men you want to go out with, versus always being chosen by men you don't want. And while it may be a little weird that this person isn't your first love, you can take solace in the fact that it could be lasting love. Because he makes her feel safe and protected and that comes directly from the days of the cavemen and the cavewomen, where a man was responsible for keeping his family safe or they'd die. But, dating apps can get a bad rep for being purely based on looks for only short connections.
Instead, write the list of qualities you want in a man. The second sentence is very general and subjective. Anyone you meet on a free app has been trained to believe that there could always be someone better just a click away.