He trusts me and gives me space, but also likes a lot of closeness. Well first: "I want to be with you. Even in my ex girlfriend have an avoidant personality disorder avpd and the attachment is there literature about attachment style. There is nothing my partner could have done--you can't be a therapist and a romantic partner at the same time, and there is nothing a romantic partner can do that, on its own, will ever be enough to silence the raging mental beasts of abandonment and fear. This is my way of saying: your goal is noble, and I admire you for being so loving and compassionate.
The Combination Here we should remember that there are two types of avoidant attachment styles: Fearful-avoidant like my ex and dismissive-avoidant, which is much more common. People with avoidant attachment styles often suffered neglectful or abusive primary caregiver as infants, and they had to learn not to rely on the affection and attention of the caregiver. Talk about what you value in the relationship and what is working.