They could even lead to a second date. Remember, the more relaxed you feel, the more comfortable your date will be around you. Don't Meet for a Meal on a First Date: You've never spent time with this individual so how do you know you'll have a good time? Indeed, many people prefer to start with a casual first meeting, designed to test your mutual spark. If the meeting goes south, you won't want to run into them at your favorite places, let alone with another date.
A slow burn could be exactly what you need. If you decide to stay later with your date, let your friend or family member know, and continue to check in periodically. But there should be zero expectations or assumptions made. Everyone, men and women alike, has negative attributes and secrets; and everyone worries about when to share them.