So, Jane for the last two years and as a continuation process recognised any time layers of these fears came up from her was precisely the time NOT to self-medicate with male company but to self-partner and heal them herself instead. Getting into a new relationship means starting fresh. Of course, abuse is never the responsibility of the abused , but that does not stop the introspection and self-reflection. He smashed my laptop, and then went for me. Does this person take advantage of me or use me?
Everyone wants to be loved even if it means faking a failed relationship just for the sake of comments and validation. In effect, you build a wall around you and proceed with extreme hesitation. Does this person take advantage of me or use me? In the beginning, try to resist projecting your romantic ideals or fantasies onto this person. Actions speak louder than words, embrace it.