How would it feel to have control over your relationships with men? Things were great at first — we were so in love, spent all our time together, and the sex, while it wasn't super frequent, was really good. I happened to be one of the other people he was dating He told me that him and this other girl decided to be exclusive and I was totally respectful of that.
Bring down the personal guards you've held against yourself and your own intuition. If there is such a thing as The One and the person you believed to be that person broke your heart, that means they're clearly not The One. Which turns him off further, precipitating even more withdrawal on his end.