You are doing yourself a disservice when you waste time and energy on dealing with things that don't directly impact your bigger goal. And therein lies the question: what do we ask for? The rollout date for the new feature hasn't been announced, but it sounds like a big step forward for the popular dating app — especially for heterosexual women who report feeling harassed on dating apps. Give her a number of tests she must pass in order to be worthy of your time.
But when is the right time to ask her out? Your message needs to grab her attention, pique her curiosity, and make her want to know more about you. She, too, was a writer, and we had plenty to talk about on that front.